This post is for couples who have decided that they want to close the distance and want to take their relationship to the next level. Moving to another country/state for love. It took Don and me a few years to close the distance. We had many obstacles between we needed to go through before. To name a few it was money, family and our visa. I knew he was the one for me, it just took (a lot) of time for us to be finally together. Now that we are together after years of being apart. Here are some tips I have for you:
01 Make sure you know they’re the one
I read so many blogs, stories about long distance couples closing the distance because they want to be together. They met online, fell in love and want to be together! They do it before they the both of them are ready. Moving away (from your family & life) for love is not an easy thing. Get to know your partner well enough to know that they are the one for you. BE 100% SURE. Nothing is more heartbreaking than going on the flight back home after a breakup. So be sure!
02 Do it on your own account
Your main reason to move away is for love, but do it for you. Do it because you want to it. Not because your long distance love asked you to. Do because you want to challenge yourself to a new environment. Do it because you want to learn a new language, immerse yourself in a new culture.
03 Save Money
It is expensive to move away. Saving money is the one thing that will give you freedom to do this. You want to be able to have the security of being able to support yourself before you get a job. Setting up a new life is expensive! It’s from settling into your home, covering your basic needs (toiletries, grooming and coffee). I am still having a hard time adjusting to how expensive is things are here as compared to KL. I would recommend saving three to six month of your current salary as a comfortable buffer. You might have to sacrifice a few luxuries, but it’ll be worth it in the end!
04 Research/Get your visa
This part is SO important! You need to research and understand what kind of visa lets you stay in the country. In my case, we are applying for the spousal visa which lets me get a Permanent Residency. Before that, when I visited Don, I was on a Tourist Visa which lets me stay in Australia for 3 months each visit. There are so many types of visa available, don’t get dishearten if you think there is no “right” visa for you.
05 Spend time with your family & friends
I know this goes without saying, but SPEND AS MUCH TIME AS YOU CAN WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS. I spent a lot of time with my family and friends and it still felt like it wasn’t enough. It’s super exciting to be moving away, gaining new experience and going on adventures. Your family and friends will also be missing you. Don and I ended our long distance relationship. The consequence of that is… I am now in a long distance relationship with my family and friends. I know it’s 2017, there is video chats and voice messages, but there nothing like going for coffee or having a meal with your loved ones.
06 Check out for jobs
The first thing you probably need to do after settling down is looking for a job. Before you leave, make sure your resume is updated. Get your references from your bosses. Some countries, you would need to get qualified for certain jobs. In Australia, if you want to do cash babysitting jobs, you would need to get a Work With Children clearance. So, make sure you get all your area covered. Another tip is, go on their job hunt websites (Australia’s SEEK) and see what kind of jobs are available. Every week I would go on SEEK and check out what positions in the industry I would like to potentially work in are available. This is just to give you an idea of what’s to come in job sense.
My next post will be about what to do during the move! Stay tuned for that!